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home decor, based on your traits.

Hello buddies, how are you doing there? Simply fine, huh? Great! Well finally I’m back after had a long journey. I didn’t. I just faced my  jerky mid semester test, and It has finished now so I can go back to concern for myself fully. Actually I’m not really sure for what I have done for the tests, I often did crap, and I think next I have to deal with many unsatisfying results. Whatev-fuck.

At the moment I’m typing with my mom’s lappy, my lappy has a trouble (uh-oh, we’re in trouble .. ) so I brought it to the IT centre to get it repaired, maybe it will be fixed 2 weeks later (OMG, why it takes so long?). I’m here up to post a tag. According to Nitia the tag-giver, there will be an interior design that represent our personality (that’s sooo psychology, hahaha, ew!). Should I give a brief description about my personality? Based on the theory of 4 big types of personality, I’m mixed melancholy (60%) and sanguine (40%) personality.

Melancholic often has got some inhibited-kind of traits, like introversion, usually avoid people if on a bad feelings, don’t really like to be a centre of attention, have a low level of social boldness (we often say it : shyness), or prefer to be ‘behind the scene’. They like to be an independent person, being alone, and really enjoy themselves as an individual (seems they are individualist, but back to the combination of personality they have).  Almost Melancholia people are perfectionist. They have (too) low tolerance of failure, pessimistic, so they tend to do anything perfectly in order not to be failed in any aspect of their life. That’s melancholy’s characteristics.

Sanguinity is the opposite. The sanguine is popular, has a good quality of extroversion, NEED to be a centre of attention, NEED to be adored and applauded, love talking, love to show off anything they have, and really care about their performance and appearance. They usually show their feelings, and they belong to their friends (or their friends belong to them. haah, confused!), simple : they can’t smile without friends. Many people consider it’s a kind of dependency, suppose to be true, yeaa suppose not to be true.  They are very lively, fun loving, agree, like to meet new people, like to contribute in a group or more. They are so public.

So, the summary of my description of personality is : I’m equally extro and intro, depends on the situation I meet. I’m a perfectionist person who has a low (enough) tolerance of failure. I’m a good speaker as good as when I have to be on ‘a backstage’. I’m dying to be ordered , … and I’m a privacy’s cop. I always save my and others privacy due to our comfort. I’m a pessimistic, rrgh!  I do really care about my action and my look-like. I can show a don’t-bother-me look, but I can as well grab your hand and don’t want to let you go away from me and stop being my friends. For me, freedom is everything, i’ll do what i want to do and not what i hate. but i’ll let myself be around me, will be mad if someone strange  comes without knocking, and i won’t bodge other people’s business if they don’t let me to. That’s all.

Can you guess what the interior design that represent those traits? Here are the pictures then:

1. the library


because this will be so important for me, i put this first before the second. i would like to spend my time alone without anyone around me. it’ll help for get myself relaxed, calm myself down after had a hectic day. i’ll put an aromatherapy there, read a book or listen to the music, write anything that comes from my brain, do self-introspection, and maybe i’ll fall asleep. LOL. i like the bookshelf there, it can place your books into an order. order = perfection, ROFL.

2. Living room

living room

although this is less important, but still.. I-M-P-O-R-T-A-N-T  for an ideal house. you can greet anyone who visits your house in the living room, and look at the picture! you can see a private living room but it has the wide windows that use to (give you a sunshine, of course. remember, human’s need of VITAMIN D, hahaha!) see outside the room. you’ll be able to know what happen out there, wave your hand to anybody that pass your house, and give a smile. great for your social life, isn’t it?

well guys, do you think it’s representing or not? do you think i have explained clearly or not? you tell it. hihhi..

ok, run out of time, i got to go.

i’m tagging : neno and cellini, and anybody who wants to do this. have a great weekend, guys! rock your weekend!!!!



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chewing gum and memory

Hello all, well how was your week? It’s almost a week since my last post. Yeah this is my mid semester test weeks; I have to abandon my blog and my other guilty pleasures. (But, Own a blog isn’t a kind of guilty pleasure, is it?)

Now I’m googling to seek many theories about my experimental (kind) assignment. It’s boring and interesting at the same time. My experiment is standing under the construct of memory. Why I use memory for my construct? Because memory is capable to be measured, and it has its own standardization, so we don’t need to make any standard score., they have made it already. My team (has 5 personnel include me) and I decided to have a research problem: Do chewing gum have any influences to the short term memory?. For me it’s not really exciting, but yet I’m excited, hahaha! The fundamental reason is that we have already found the phenomenon at my faculty, describes about the condition, which is demanding the students to have a good memory, in order to store and/or recall all the lessons, especially at the 1st year studying. So many theories we need to know them on exact.

gumkitty enjoys the gum, hahah!

Nah, I have just read about the theory of memory, telling that chewing gum may improve our memory. If your cognitive skills are not at their best, you may just need a stick of gum to boost your brain power. Research at the University of Northumbria and the Cognitive Research Unit in Reading, England, shows that the repetitive chewing motion positively influences thinking, memory, and other mental tasks. *sigh* Andrew Scholey of the University’s Human Cognitive Neuroscience Unit presented his team’s findings at the 2001 British Psychological Society’s annual conference in Blackpool. He explained that “the mild increase in heart rate may improve the delivery of oxygen and glucose to the brain, enough to improve cognitive function.”. Additionally, chewing gum induces a surge of insulin due to the mouth watering in anticipation of a meal. “It is known that there are insulin receptors in areas of the brain important for learning and memory,” Scholey said.

Then what are we going to do with this jerky research? We ascertain the accuracy and reliability of this theory when it demonstrates practically (don’t forget that theory and practice are not that determined and alike, they may change, they may be different). The experiment will have 30-40 samples from my faculty, and they will be sorted into 2 groups. Each group will have the different treatment. Group A will chew a gum, and group B will not. Both of those groups will have a task to remember a phrase, or few rhymes of poetry (we’ll choose which task is better, as soon as we need, ahaah!). After remembering (and storing into their memory), they have to fill in the blank, about the poetry or the phrase that they’ve already remembered. Hope with this experiment, we really find it out then.

This is my 1st time doing an experiment. I’m both curious and anxious. =((((

PS : if you want to learn more about chewing gum and memory, you can click this site, or this.


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social support is a kind of unconditional love..

I don’t know what has driven me to write about this kind of stuff, suddenly I’ve got an interest to mention it. Well, umh, based on a dictionary of psychology, social support particularly means the physical and emotional comfort given to us by our family, friends, co-workers and others. It knows that we are part of a community of people who love and care for us, and think well of us. An important aspect of support is that a message or communicative experience does not constitute support, unless the receiver views it as such.

Most of my lectures are always ended by this (kind of) issue. Social support. Someone who has an emotional discomfort will need social support to help her/him to struggle. For example, a girl who suffering post-traumatic stress disorder after experienced a sexual-rape would be tougher to through her stressful condition if her family didn’t neglect her. How if she’s neglected? I think you know the answer.

Unfortunately, some of our populations (in our region we live) aren’t able to give any social support. They probably have given, but useless (mostly caused by their unfriendly way of talking), or they haven’t got a sense (or ability?) to understand how we feel (simpler: has a low level of awareness). I think we don’t need to be a sensitive person to know others’ feeling, we just have to care. I often read cases about mental problem that will get worse because the patient doesn’t have enough social support from people around him/her. Sad, right? The number of Mental illness’ patients increases because lack of social support too. Gaah! Hey, look! Only half patients on mental hospital have been visited by their family. I do really want to laugh after reading this fact. Me personally, always try to give some support for anybody around me, at least say to them that they’ll be ok soon.

they laugh and cry together. =)

About 2 week ago, my friend lost her momma. Her beautiful-maternal mum died from an ovarian cancer, which chronically laid in her body since … maybe 5 or 6 years ago. 3 days after her mum’s death, She (my friend) was (still) very depressed (of course she was! who wasn’t???). I often found her crying, did nothing, or did something but without enthusiasm like she does normally. My lecturer asked me what was going on with her (she found many changed behavior on my friend), she thought she’s different. Finally I told her (lecturer) about her (friend) condition. My lecturer spontaneously said that I have to give her some motivation, social support (hha!!), and always be able if she needs me. “as a friend and psychologist-to-be, we have to be sensible for this kind of problem, I think you can’t go through her and do nothing, blablabla …”, she said. “Why me? She has got 2 sisters and father, who always beside her…” I asked, not because I don’t care about my friend, but I just wanted to know the reason(s) why she said that (naughty me!). Then she continued with an answer, “Because you’re her friend, Sarah. Friends’ motivations can make us emotionally attached, and they will wonderfully help us to relieve from our sadness or another kind of negative feeling.” (Then she smiled to me, and went out from class). Yeah she’s right. I have to do all those, for her.

A couple of hours later, I met her in the canteen. I looked her smoking. I joined with her, and borrowed her light (hahahahah!). I tried to open a conversation but I got stuck. *ah shshshiiit!!!* and what an unexpected, she talked! She told me how she missed her mom so much, and so on (too long to explain). I can see in her eyes (her eyes told me too, indirectly) how terrible her feeling was, deep inside my heart, i cried. I hugged her, and she cried on my shoulder. I let her crying for a moment then gave her a glass of water. After that, we kept silent. No talk, no laugh, but I stayed my body close to her. There’s no talk again until the time to go home. Her driver picked her up and I went to the plaza semanggi to meet my high school friends. When I was at plangi, I received a message from her. “Sar, thanks for your kind and support, also for your shoulder, hehe! You know something? I can’t cry since her death, I was too shocked. And finally, I cried, fiuuh! You’ve given me a place to cry and I can’t tell you how blessed I am, have a friend like you and them (her another friends).”. I replied, “You’re welcome dear, I know it’s hard, everybody knows, but life must go on. Allow yourself to cry, but don’t stop your step after this, go go go!! I know you’re strong, we are strong, everybody’s strong..”. i told my friends to support her whatever the way is, and my friends were very welcome to do that.

Day by day, she gets better *Alhamdulillah!!!!*. And now, she can draw a smile again, she can laugh as usually, her GPA went down but she thought she’ll fix it next semester. See? Social support has just perfectly worked. Conscious or unconsciously, her circumstance wanted her to struggle, and she did it! A brief story that I’ve told you before, is a sample case about how the social support works. It’s not a sin if we do some support to our relations, it will help much, trust me.. an individualism is not a reason to stop supporting others. And I think, the happiest thing we’ve ever had is when we’re realized that everybody loves us, purely. Unconditional love. Social support is a kind of unconditional love itself. =)


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the art of sleep

Top 10 Facts About Sleep
Wed, Oct 30 2007

1. It’s impossible to tell if someone is really awake without close medical supervision. People can take cat naps with their eyes open without even being aware of it.

2. Dreams, once thought to occur only during REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, also occur (but to a lesser extent) in non-REM sleep phases. It’s possible there may not be a single moment of our sleep when we are actually dreamless.

3. REM dreams are characterised by bizarre plots, but non …-REM dreams are repetitive and thought-like, with little imagery – obsessively returning to a suspicion you left your mobile phone somewhere, for example.

4. Humans sleep on average around three hours less than other primates like chimps, rhesus monkeys, squirrel monkeys and baboons, all of whom sleep for 10 hours.

5. Ducks at risk of attack by predators are able to balance the need for sleep and survival, keeping one half of the brain awake while the other slips into sleep mode.

The Art of Sleep.. by sarahsita hendry

6. The “natural alarm clock” which enables some people to wake up more or less when they want to is caused by a burst of the stress hormone adrenocorticotropin. Researchers say this reflects an unconscious anticipation of the stress of waking up.

7. Elephants sleep standing up during non-REM sleep, but lie down for REM sleep.

8. Tiny luminous rays from a digital alarm clock can be enough to disrupt the sleep cycle even if you do not fully wake. The light turns off a “neural switch” in the brain, causing levels of a key sleep chemical to decline within minutes.

9. The record for the longest period without sleep is 18 days, 21 hours, 40 minutes during a rocking chair marathon. The record holder reported hallucinations, paranoia, blurred vision, slurred speech and memory and concentration lapses.

10. Have you heard of Sexsomnia synrom? Well, it’s a condition completely distinct from sleepwalking and is a form of sleep disorder called REM behavioral disorder. The condition can range in severity from disruptive moaning to unwanted, and sometimes violent, sexual advances to their partner.
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tugas matakul kesehatan mental = bedah film

Film ini bercerita tentang kehidupan anak lelaki yang mental retarded, serta mempunyai disability, yaitu tidak bisa berjalan dan harus memakai penopang dari besi untuk menopang kakinya agar bisa berjalan. Di film ini diceritakan bagaimana Forrest bertahan hidup dan mengejar masa depannya, dengan dukungan orang-orang sekitar yang baik padanya, walaupun tak jarang ia mendapat makian dan penolakan dari sana-sini. Ibunya mengajarinya banyak hal, hingga ia bisa menjadi seseorang. Ia juga bertemu dengan Jenny, wanita yang ia cintai namun kisah cintanya tidak berjalan mulus. Tak lama setelah mereka dipersatukan lagi dan menikah, tetapi Jenny akhirnya meninggal karena terkena penyakit, dan Forrest tinggal bersama anaknya, yang juga bernama Forrest.
Adegan dalam film ini banyak yang menarik. Awal filmnya saja sudah menarik, yaitu saat Forrest mengatakan pada orang yang sedang menunggu bis bersamanya, bahwa hidup itu seperti sekotak coklat, kita tidak akan pernah mengetahui apa yang kita dapatkan. Saya setuju dengan kutipan tersebut, karena menurut saya, hidup ini sungguh unpredictable. Kita tidak bisa tahu apa yang ‘disajikan’ berikutnya, seperti sekotak coklat yang diumpamakan oleh film ini. Saya meyakini bahwa hidup saya (dan semua manusia) seperti itu.
Selain itu, adegan saat ibunya Forrest mengatakan pada Forrest, “You are as the same as everybody else, You are no different. (kamu sama seperti yang lain, tidak ada bedanya).”, juga menjadi adegan yang membuat saya tersentuh. Saya merasa sedih, namun senang dan ‘terhibur’ juga, karena merasa disadarkan bahwa memang semua orang sama, apapun ‘penderitaan’ yang mereka punya dan hadapi, mereka mendapatkan peluang yang sama untuk meraih apa yang mereka cita-citakan. Begitu juga dengan hidup saya. Apapun persoalan, cobaan dan kondisi saya saat ini, saya tetap harus maju dan mengejar cita-cita saya, karena saya mempuyai kesempatan yang sama dengan ‘mereka’, dan itulah yang menjadi pegangan hidup saya.
Adegan di mana Forrest sedang bersama Jenny, seorang anak yang pertama kali menawarkan kursi di bis sekolah yang sama-sama mereka tumpangi, juga menarik perhatian saya. Saat itu, hanya Jenny yang bisa menerima Forrest. Setelah itu mereka semakin dekat, saling mengisi dan bertukar ‘ilmu’. Contohnya ketika Forrest mengajari Jenny bergelantungan di pohon, sementara Jenny mengajari Forrest memanjat. Mereka saling mendukung satu sama lain. Sampai pada suatu hari, saat Forrest sedang diganggu oleh anak-anak nakal, Jenny menyuruhnya untuk berlari. “Run Forrest, Run! (larilah Forrest, lari!) ”, teriak Jenny. Forrest pun berlari, dan terus berlari, hingga ia bisa berlari sangat cepat. Pada akhirnya juga Forrest menjadi pemain football dan membawa nama universitasnya. Adegan ini membuat saya menangis terharu, karena disini terlihat bagaimana Forrest mendapatkan support dari seorang teman, dan senang karena akhirnya ia bisa melakukan sesuatu yang tadinya terpikir sangat tidak mungkin bisa dilakukan oleh seorang anak dengan disability seperti Forrest. Bagi saya, kondisi seperti ini sering saya temui di kehidupan saya. Pada saat saya merasa sesuatu itu sangat mustahil saya lakukan, saya tidak berusaha lebih keras (karena sudah berpikir bahwa saya tidak akan bisa) lagi untuk bisa melakukannya, namun saat saya mendapat support dari lingkungan sekitar saya, saya merasa termotivasi untuk berusaha terus, dan pada akhirnya saya memang bisa melakukannya, saya hanya harus berusaha lebih keras lagi.
Adegan selanjutnya yang menyentuh emosi saya adalah saat Forrest sedang berperang membela Amerika di Vietnam. Saat itu, serangan datang tiba-tiba, Forrest teringat kata-kata Jenny untuk berlari, dan ia pun berlari. Kemudian ia tersadar bahwa saat itu ia berlari sendirian, ia teringat Bubba, temannya sesama prajurit angkatan darat, lalu ia kembali dan mencari Bubba. Ia dan Bubba sudah berteman baik, dan berjanji akan membuat bisnis udang bersama-sama. Saat ia mencari Bubba, ada banyak yang meminta pertolongannya, dan saat ia menemukan Bubba, ia melihat Bubba terluka. Ia menggendong sahabatnya itu dan menyelamatkannya. Namun sayang, ia harus kehilangan Bubba. Ia sangat sedih, karena menurutnya, persahabatan seperti itu sulit ia temukan. Adegan ini juga membuat saya menangis terharu, karena sama seperti Forrest, bagi saya persahabatan adalah hal yang sulit saya temukan. Saya memang punya banyak sekali teman, namun yang mempunyai ‘tempat’ di hati saya hanya segelintir saja. Oleh karena itu, mereka sangat berarti bagi saya. Juga sama seperti Forrest, saya akan melakukan apa saja semampu saya menjadi seorang sahabat yang baik, dan mengungkapkan rasa sayang saya pada sahabat-sahabat saya. Saya benar-benar berusaha untuk tidak mengecewakan mereka.
Adegan saat ia bertemu Jenny di akhir film, juga sangat menyentuh saya. Saya senang melihat akhirnya Forrest dan Jenny dipersatukan lagi. Ternyata Forrest sudah punya anak, yang juga diberi nama Forrest oleh Jenny. Anaknya sangat pintar, dan Forrest terlihat bersyukur karenanya. Adegan ini tidak ada hubungannya dengan kehidupan saya sehari-hari, saya hanya menyukai bagian ini saja, karena di bagian ini saya dapat melihat cinta sejati yang tidak akan hilang oleh apapun. Dengan keajaiban Tuhan, mereka dipersatukan lagi, dan pasti ini menjadi salah satu bagian terbaik dalam hidup seseorang.
Film ini adalah film favorit saya. Banyak sekali pelajaran hidup yang saya dapatkan lewat Forrest, yang selalu berpikir ke depan, tidak pernah putus asa, walaupun banyak keterbatasan yang ia punya. Dari film ini saya mendapat banyak ‘pencerahan’ bahwa tidak ada satu alasan pun yang menghambat seseorang untuk maju, dan itu pula yang menjadi pegangan hidup saya untuk meraih semua harapan saya..

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